Celebration of life ideas: a gathering that feels like them

Start with the person

Before choosing anything, ask a few questions around the table. Where were they happiest? What did they always say? What would make them laugh, and what would they find too solemn? The answers point to the place, the music and the tone. A celebration of life doesn't have to be sad from start to finish: many families aim for a gathering that feels like an afternoon with the person.

Choosing the place

When the body or the ashes are not present, the Bereavement Authority of Ontario says that anyone can host a memorial service, a celebration of life or a reception, including renting a place for it. So the choice is wide:

• A place they loved: a park, a lakeside, a garden, a trail head;
• A place of their life: the community hall, their club, the arena where they coached, their favourite restaurant;
• Home: their backyard, or the family home, for a small gathering;
• A hall or a funeral home's reception room, if you want everything handled in one place.

Ask the venue about its rules for numbers, music, candles and food. For a public park, ask the municipality whether a group gathering needs a permit. If the ashes will be there, or scattered that day, see scattering ashes in Ontario.

Words and memories

• A tribute. One person tells the story of their life: see how to write a eulogy.
• Open memories. Invite a few people to share a short story, two or three minutes each. Ask them ahead, so nobody is caught off guard.
• Memory cards. Guests write a memory on a card as they arrive; a few are read aloud, and the family keeps them all.
• Their own words. A favourite saying, a letter they wrote, a message they left.

Music

Play their music, not what you think a ceremony should sound like. Make a playlist of the songs they loved, ask a musician friend to play, or end with a song everyone can sing. Agree with the venue on the sound system before the day.

Things to see and to touch

• A photo table or a slideshow, from childhood to last summer;
• The objects of their life: tools, recipes, jerseys, paintings, a fishing rod, a well-worn book;
• A memory board where guests pin photos and notes;
• A dress code: their favourite colour, their team's jersey, a flower in every buttonhole.

Things to do together

• A toast with their favourite drink;
• Plant a tree or flowers, at home or with the permission of the place;
• Light candles, if the venue allows it;
• Cook their recipes, or ask everyone to bring a dish, potluck style;
• Give children a role: drawings, handing out cards, placing flowers.

Keepsakes for guests

A photo bookmark, a card with one of their recipes, a packet of seeds, or a small object from their life. Something simple, that people keep.

For those who can't come

If the venue allows it, stream or record the gathering, and send the recording to those far away. You can also ask them to send a memory ahead, to be read aloud.

A simple outline

1. Welcome, and why this place.
2. The tribute, the story of their life.
3. Memories shared by two or three people.
4. A shared moment: a song, a toast, a silence, candles.
5. Closing words, and an invitation to stay, eat and talk.

About an hour suits most gatherings, followed by time together. For the words of each step, see a celebration of life order of service.

Who leads it?

A relative, a close friend, or a celebrant. A celebrant meets the family, listens, writes the tribute and leads the gathering, so that you can simply be there. If you would like one, Celebrance can connect you with a celebrant from our local network in Ontario. The price is shown upfront, and if your celebrant becomes unavailable, we arrange a replacement. See our celebrants for funerals and celebrations of life. For the practical steps, see how to plan a funeral or celebration of life in Ontario.

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